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Bonding with your newborn

After all the months of waiting and dreaming, it is exciting when your baby is finally born. Getting to know your new baby is part of a fascinating but relatively simple process called bonding, in which you essentially "fall in love" with each other. Although bonding is a natural process, it takes effort.

From the moment a couple learns a baby is on the way, the process of bonding with the newborn-to-be begins. This is an on-going process of intimacy, understanding, and nurturing that is all part of parents falling in love with their baby.

It was once thought that bonding occurred as a distinct time frame immediately after birth, when the baby was held in the mother's arms and eye contact was established. However, bonding has been identified more as a process, not an event. With more frequent use of ultrasound examinations, parents are actually seeing their babies earlier than ever before. This seems to enhance bonding during pregnancy. The kicks and movements of the baby during pregnancy are also ways that a mother and father bond with the baby. Bonding continues when the baby is born and the parents and baby spend time getting to know each other. As a process, bonding is not "missed out on" if a baby needs to leave the mother's side for special care.

Bonding may be different for mothers than for fathers. And, some mothers may react differently than others. Some mothers feel an immediate deep emotional bond at first sight, while others find their feelings develop more slowly, as they spend time with the baby. Babies do not "forget" parents if they are separated from them at first. Babies show a unique preference for a mother's smell and her voice.

There are several ways to help you and your baby continue the process of bonding. Breastfeeding is one of the best ways to bond with your baby. In addition to the nourishment it provides, breastfeeding gives mother and baby closeness and skin-to-skin contact on a constant basis. This helps both get to know each other more intimately.

Infant massage

Parents have always loved touching and stroking their babies, and babies love to be soothed and cuddled. Part of a baby's emotional and neurologic development comes from the interactions of touch and feelings of security it offers.

Other cultures have long practiced infant massage--a technique of stroking and gently rubbing the baby's limbs. Proponents of infant massage believe it:

  • Relieves stress for parents and babies, which can help with sleep
  • Provides one-on-one time for bonding and communication
  • Increases parent confidence and sensitivity to a baby's signals and cues
  • Reduces crying

Some evidence shows that massage of premature infants may increase weight gain and help with neurological development.

Certified infant massage therapists often offer classes to teach techniques in infant massage. However, many parents find that spending time with their baby helps them learn how to stroke and cuddle in ways that baby and parents both prefer.


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